The group "I hate my parents" has more than 58,000 members, attracting a lot of controversy
(Dan Tri) - A Facebook group called "I hate my parents" is attracting more than 58,000 members, with a series of posts sharing family conflicts, feelings of being imposed upon, hurt or not understood by parents.
The lines "I hate my parents", "I don't want to go home", or recounting an argument with a relative appear among a series of posts in a Facebook group called "I hate my parents".
According to reporters on September 28, the group has about 58,000 members. This number continues to change as the community receives great attention on social networks.
The name "I hate my parents" easily creates the feeling that this is a gathering place for people with negative attitudes towards family. However, observing the posted content shows that the stories inside are more diverse than the group's name.
The group "I hate my parents" currently attracts about 58,000 members, with many posts sharing conflicts between children and parents (Screenshot).
Many members talked about arguments with their parents, academic pressure, the feeling of being compared to "other people's kids", having their phones controlled, their love affairs or personal choices.
Some articles only originate from small conflicts in daily activities. Others mentioned conflicts that lasted for many years.
Many members choose to post anonymously to talk about academic pressure, arguments or difficult things to say directly to their families (Screenshot).
Many posts are written in anonymous mode. The writer does not reveal his identity but tells in quite a lot of detail about his family's situation and the things he believes are difficult to say directly to his parents.
Below these posts, many members left comments sharing that they had experienced similar situations. Someone comforts, gives advice or simply says that they understand how the writer feels.
When adults flood into the group
The community's atmosphere began to change when the group "I hate my parents" was widely shared on social networks.
The number of members increased rapidly, leading to many accounts claiming to be parents or older people joining.
Once primarily a place to share stories between members with similar experiences, many posts began to feature intergenerational debates.
A part of adults reacted harshly to the confidences of young members. Some comments used strong words, accusing the poster of being "disrespectful", "ungrateful", and even insulting when saying that children do not understand the sacrifices of their parents.
After the group received a lot of attention, many parents joined and left comments opposing and even harshly criticizing the young people who posted (Screenshot).
On the other hand, there are also parents who choose a different approach.
They said they joined the group not to argue with young people, but to read articles to understand how children view their parents.
An account claiming to be a parent shared that the stories in the group helped this person realize that there are words and actions that adults consider normal but children can perceive in a completely different way.
This person sees this as an opportunity to "hear things their children may not say", thereby looking back at how to talk with their children in the family.
Some other parents also expressed sympathy with the shared stories. Instead of just focusing on the word "hate" in the group's name, they believe it is necessary to find out what caused a young person to go online and say difficult things about their parents.
"I came here to understand my children, but now I only see parents"
The increasing presence of adults also creates another paradox.
In some discussions, members expressed disappointment that the community, which was considered a place where young people could talk to each other, now had too many parents.
Some people think that when parents participate, even argue and judge, they find it difficult to share their true thoughts.
On the contrary, some parents also expressed regret at this change.
They said they initially came to the group with the desire to read young people's stories, thereby better understanding their children's thoughts and adjusting family communication. However, as more and more adults joined, the content in the group gradually appeared more debates among parents themselves.
Besides opposing opinions, some parents said they joined the group to listen to young people's thoughts, thereby understanding and communicating with their children better (Screenshot).
"I came here to see what my children thought, and from there I went back to talk to my children. But now when I enter the group, I see it's all parents," one member shared.
From a community with a controversial name, "I hate my parents", it is now becoming a place where many groups of people appear together with different purposes.
Some people are looking for a place to confide. Some people want to find people in the same situation as themselves. There are parents who come in to understand their children. There are also accounts participating just to refute and criticize the stories posted.
This community change also raises questions about how a shared space on social networks transforms as it attracts more and more groups of members with different purposes. When parents participate, debate and express their opinions, will those who come to the group to share still feel comfortable talking about issues that are difficult to discuss in the family?
Behind the stories shared online are very different conflicts between parents and children. What makes some people choose to go to strangers to confide instead of talking directly with relatives?
Dan Tri Newspaper will continue to explore this issue.